Renewing Old Friendships
Today, I want to talk about my friend Malaika, wondering if she is still my friend, or ever was. In fact, many friends seem like strangers after getting married. I think the definition of friendship is very simple, actually. There are so many kinds of friends in life, and just like in all relationships, wounds warp reality until it starts to seem complicated. In truth, if two people like each other, they're friends. The degree to which they like each other changes, and their friendship changes with it. It can be as simple as basic human dignity and mutual respect. "If you speak to me, I won't ignore you." Also known as our garden variety friendliness. But when we say that two people like each other, we don't think of civility, or even friendship. The first thing that comes to mind is romance. That's because the value of deeper friendships has been quietly eroding from our world. The reasons are many, just to name 3: - Demanding Commitments: We're doing f...